Am I Too Old for My Girlfriend?

Dear Isabella,

I'd like your opinion on something semi-sexual. I am 42, divorced, no kids. I started dating my girlfriend about 7 months ago; she's 19. I won't lie and say she's the mature type -- she's pretty much tits and bubblegum with no idea what she wants to be in life. But she's damned sexy and I would like to have a nice looking girlfriend (hey, I'm just being honest). I don't love her and I'm pretty sure I never will; but she's too young to think about marriage anyway, so I don't see the problem in banging her. I buy her pretty clothes to make her happy and I think it works out well. It's a great trade off when you consider guys her own age can barely afford a happy meal. Unfortunately, my family and friends are on my shit saying she's too young. My mother especially thinks so. My argument is that they don't like her because she's a ditz, and they are plenty of ditzy women my own age -- but with sagging breasts and stretchmarks. Does it really matter, how old she is? Am I really too old for her, or is this a case of jealousy? I think the latter.

--Z28
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Dear Z28,

The reason so many women bitch about middle-aged men (which you are, by the way) dating teenagers (which she is, by the way) is because they tend to do so for precisely the reasons you've eluded to in your email. You have, essentially, told us that you're not interested in who she is, but rather how fresh the pussy is. Strangely, you have also gone out of your way to insult the poor girl by making her sound like a complete moron. What a lovely relationship you must have.

Is it wrong for a man going through an obvious mid-life crisis to rob to the cradle? Not if she's enjoying it, no. There are many young women who prefer older men (I was one of them, at that age) and if she's set her heart on semi-shriveled cock, that's her prerogative. If, however, she's dumb as a box of rocks and unable to see how much of a prick you clearly are, then I would say you're taking advantage of her -- and yes, I'd class that as wrong.

Generally speaking, there is nothing wrong with two consenting adults of any age fucking or even falling in love with one another. The issues arise when one partner seduces the other simply for the sake of making themselves feel better; sexier; or what have you. If you'd made even the slightest effort to disguise your real intentions, I might have been kinder with my reply -- but you didn't, and so I've called a spade a spade; I trust you're too arrogant to let it bother you overmuch.

xx Isabella